Anger is normal and a healthy emotion, but the management of your anger is essential to ensure a productive, and effective environment – especially when it comes to the work and family environment. This is due to the fact that any explosive reaction brought about may result in pretty dire consequences within these settings.
First and foremost being aware of your anger is the starting point getting this emotion under control. The acknowledgement of your anger will ensure that you will come to realize what your anger “triggers” are and empower you to actually deal with this possible destructive emotion (depending of course on how you typically react when you are angry).
There is often times a period that you will experience the anger building up, this is part of the acknowledgement phase that you will need to recognize. This is because it will be easier to deal with it at this stage as opposed to after an outburst where all sorts of consequences may result due to such an outburst.
There may be specific situations which result in you losing your temper or becoming angry, if these can be identified the process of identification and acknowledgement of your anger is practically there already. This is not necessarily to say that anger should be repressed, but rather the effective identification of the emotion of anger, which will allow for the effective management thereof.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. – Mark Twain
The Source of Anger
As each one of us are unique and so are our circumstances, so too will the source (or sources) of anger be. There may also be different types of anger that occur, such as those brought on my situations of empathy or sympathy, and those which are more personalized and brought on by direct factors within the individual’s environment – such as anxiety, personal attacks and so forth.
Your Environment has been typically associated with the main cause of your anger – and this includes the setting within the home and work place, as well as the various aspects of your life that contribute to the regular stresses and pressures of day to day like. Of course there are other, and perhaps more extenuating circumstances and factors that come into play, however the predominant source is that of your environment, lifestyle and direct factors within this area.
So if we have a predominant, and probable cause as mentioned above, that makes our anger a lot more manageable as we do in fact largely control our environments, do we not?
Knowing that factors within your environment are the source of your anger allows you to cognitively identify these situations, and thereby acknowledge your anger, or at the very least become aware of the emotional state that precedes anger, or any outbursts that you may be prone to.
Anger Diary or Journal?
Many folks may prefer to work with a journal or diary to document the various instances, causes, emotions and reactions when it comes to their anger episodes. This is perhaps one of the most effective ways in acknowledging all aspects of anger within your life. Of course you need to be honest with yourself, as well as disciplined in completing the journal on a daily or even as it happens basis! AngerEpidemic.com has compiled a worksheet that can be downloaded here for use as a journal or tool for your anger management. Below is an example of how to use the Anger Journal. (Sources and Credits: http://www.mensline.org.au/ and http://www.apa.org/)
This post will be followed up with a post on How to Control Anger